Being a Positive Role Model with Alcohol

Let’s be real; parenting can be hard. After a chaotic day (or week!), cracking open a drink might feel like a great way to unwind. But here’s something worth thinking about: the way you drink could shape how your kids view alcohol later in life.

A game-changing study from La Trobe University found that kids pick up on everything, especially when it comes to their parents’ drinking patterns. Even before age eight, children form opinions about alcohol based on what they see at home and in their surroundings.

Why early exposure matters

Most people don’t start drinking until their teens, but the groundwork is laid much earlier. If kids grow up seeing alcohol as a go-to stress reliever or a must-have at every celebration, they might assume that’s just "what adults do." And that can lead to riskier drinking habits down the road.

But here’s the good news: you have way more influence than you think. By being mindful of your drinking, you can help shape healthier attitudes in your kids.

How to be a positive role model

Worried about how your drinking affects your family? You’re not alone. Lots of parents in our Hello Sunday Morning community have shared the same concerns, especially when hangovers make weekend parenting feel like an Olympic sport.

Here are four simple ways to set a better example:

1. Check your own drinking patterns

• Do you reach for a drink every time you’re stressed?
• Are you fully present with your kids, or does alcohol sometimes get in the way?
• When you do decide to have a drink, drinking mindfully can make a big difference.

2. Talk openly (but keep it age-appropriate)

• Little kids don’t need a lecture, but simple conversations help. Encourage their questions.
• Try: "Grown-ups sometimes drink, but it’s important to be careful because too much is not good for us."
• As they get older, discuss risks honestly without scare tactics.

3. Set clear boundaries

• Make rules about alcohol in your home (e.g., "No underage drinking").
• Stick to them consistently because kids notice when words and actions don’t match.

4. Show them better ways to unwind

• Instead of a glass of wine after a tough day, try:
  • A family walk
  • Deep breathing (yes, even if your kids giggle at first)
  • A fun, alcohol-free ritual (movie night, baking goods together, etc.)

Give yourself a break

Parenting isn’t about being perfect, it’s about doing your best. Some days, that might mean sipping a beer while watching TV. Other days, it might mean choosing a mocktail instead. What matters is staying aware and making small, positive changes where you can.

By modelling balance and open communication, you’re giving your kids the tools to make smarter choices later. And that’s something worth celebrating, with or without a drink.

Need Support?
If you’re rethinking your drinking, you’re not alone. Our community is full of parents navigating the same challenges so join the conversation via Daybreak and find what works for you